Friend

The dictionary meaning of the word ‘friend’ is somebody emotionally close or somebody who trusts and is fond of another. Friend has many meanings if you are going to ask different people. In the military, their friend is their gun because even their comrades might betray them. For others, a friend is a teacher. A friend also can be considered as your own brother or sister.

When I entered my first school and last school (Well, I will be graduating next year.), I encountered my first set of my friends. As far as I can remember, I treated them as my playmates since my mind is too young. Playmate was my first definition of a friend. Years went by. I started to develop my own meaning of the word ‘friend’. During my elementary days, friends for me are the one that makes you happy when you are with them. Honestly, I really want to go to school when I am in elementary. The real reason is (not studying) I enjoy spending time with my friends. I consider everyone in our grade six batch as my friend because I enjoy being with them.

High school days started to change my own definition. First year of my high school life gave me new sets of friends. At the beginning, I really hate them maybe it is because they are against my former friends. Or maybe, it is because they do not like me or my old friends hate them. Honestly, I do not know my real reason. I started to oppose them from simple things to complicated things. I did not notice that it was only a start. Those new students or new classmates became my new friends. I do not know how. I am just fighting and having a quarrel with them, later on they were already my friends. Because of that, your enemies can be your close friends.

From that incident, I developed a deep closeness with one of my classmates that I treated as an enemy before. I also developed deep relationships with some of my classmates. Yes, I am happy for that but no one can really read a person’s mind. You cannot also predict someone’s next actions.

During the middle of my high school life, some warm relationships became a cold ice. I do not know if I have done something. What I know is they started to be different. I also noticed the changes from them. It seems that everyone changed. Honestly, I feel abandoned. They started to spend their time with others. The inbox of both my cell phone and email started to become empty. I do not want to be slightly emotional but that is the reality. Everything and everyone changed. The only permanent thing in this world was change.

I thank God because with His help some of the broken relationships in the classroom came back to normal. I really thank God because He is helping us to fix everything in the class before we graduate. I wish the closeness with my classmate that I treated as my sister after we had an everyday fight when I was in first year will be back even the percentage is only 10% that our friendship will be fixed. I am still hoping for that.

My latest definition for friends now is they are the gifts or blessing from God. They were the ones who gave you your own shape. They were your treasures.

The lesson learned is, we should take care of our friends. They are one of the real treasures that God can give us. Never lose even one of your friends. The reason is your life will not be complete if you lose one its precious piece.